How do I know I am married to an insecure man?

Truth be told, many women are living with men who are insecure. Living with an insecure man is one way to drain your emotional energy. You would never be able to become your best in life if you live with an insecure man. One thing you would discover is that you are constantly questioning yourself, or always trying to explain yourself or your actions when in actual sense, you owe no one any explanations, the real issue is that you are wrongly paired with an insecure man who needs to deal with his insecurity problems. 1 out of 3 women today are in relationships where they are suffering abuse simply because the men are insecure. The aim of this post today is to help you zoom into your current relationship with your spouse and check to see if you have been living with an insecure man. These men cannot stand the fact that a woman is a human being who has been endowed with potentials and abilities that can make her succeed and excel irrespective of any other person. They believe that as a woman, you are not permitted to make progress without them. They are in a constant battle with these women with the aim of pulling them down.

How do I know I am living with or married to an insecure man? Look out for any of these signs below:

• He is always angry about your progress and does not also contribute to anything that would make you successful, rather he would give you a counter-productive advice to ensure that you fail

• He is happy when you fail and rejoices over your failures

• He would always tell lies about you to his family members just to destabilize you and put you in bad light

• He does not encourage your personal development and is always looking for a reason to pull you down

• He only focuses on investing in himself and does not encourage or advice you to do same for yourself

• He would stop paying the bills of the home just to ensure all the expenses are borne by you. That way, you are unable to grow your income or have anything extra for investment

• If you are working class woman or own a thriving business, he is always looking for reasons to get you to resign from the job or shut down the business. They will call you all sorts of names such eg prostitute, etc, and tell a lot of lies against you that some other man is giving your money for those projects. He would use his family, your family, friends, anyone around him to fight this battle.

• If you have a thriving business, he would complain to everyone who cares to hear him that you are focusing more on that business than on the home

• He does not believe that a woman should own any assets and any funds he sees in your account, he is always looking for a way to make you spend it to the last kobo

• He is always working towards bringing you down to zero level financially• He is always checking your phone, contacts, interaction with friends, tracking your life and every movement• He is always looking for a reason to pick quarrels with you especially in public just to put you in bad light

• I hear some men who tell their wives to delete their social media accounts after they get married, if your husband is one of such, he is an insecure man• He is always uncomfortable with your dreams, aspirations and life goals when you share them with him.

• He believes that a woman should not have a mind of her own or make her own decisions without running them by him

• He has issues with an independent woman and is always looking for every reason to make her dependent on him• He soon starts picking side chicks just to ensure that you become distracted, anything that would keep you unhappy, he would engage in it, as a way to distract you

• He does not believe that a woman’s opinion counts, any suggestions from you is treated with disdain

If you notice any of these behaviors in your man, you have been living with an insecure man and there is nothing you can do to please that man, only when you lose yourself and identity would he be happy! If you know that you are a high flyer and a goal oriented woman, please ensure you have nothing to do with an insecure man as you many never be able to achieve those goals in your lifetime.