There is nothing virtuous about marrying a man and living with him under his father’s roof. This is rather a demoralizing experience and usually ends in premium tears in most of the cases.

I keep reading from ladies with lorry load of complaints on this topic and the first question I ask is this: Oh Bible reading and tongue talking Nigerian Christian, was it not written in that your Bible that when a man decides to marry, he is expected to leave the father and mother and cleave to the wife? Why then does he marry and remain in his family house, sharing the same roof with parents? Some ask, what if the father has lots of houses, should the son also go out to rent a place just to prove his independence? Please, my response to this is that the father should give him one of those houses, where they can enjoy their privacy as a couple, without interference, not that he is sharing a house with them and has been given a room or two to stay in their home.
There is everything wrong with that arrangement where a newly married couple decides to move into the same home as their Parents. I am sorry, there is nothing virtuous about this, you have only succeeded in reducing yourself to a place where you can easily attract unending ridicule into your life as the woman. If that man truly has any regard for you, and respects his own self, he would go out and rent a place, even a one bedroom for his privacy with his newly married wife. The first few years of a married couple’s are critical seasons and all the energy of the new couple should be channeled towards building the new home, the couple need to have time to themselves, not share a home with many others.

I heard the story of a newly wedded lady who travelled to the hometown with her husband for Easter holidays, they stayed in the family house for a few days, the lady complained bitterly that everyone ( father-in- law inclusive) walked into their bedroom without knocking as if they did not recognize that there was a new guest in that home. Her privacy was severely invaded without apologies. If she needed to dress up, she would have to do it behind the bedroom door, as there was no key to lock that room. Someone could come into the room while she was half dressed. It was a really sad experience for her. Imagine that this was going to be her new home for a long time, but thank God, this visit was just a brief one and for few days, yet it was not a pleasant experience.My dear ladies, there is nothing driving you from your Parent’s homes, if your parents no longer want you in their home, kindly get an apartment for yourself and move into it until you are ready to meet a ready and matured man who understands what it means to be responsible for both himself and others. Truth be told, alot needs to be done to raise more of such men…..Have a lovely week!